30 Questions for Discipleship.

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I recently started working part-time in the youth ministry at my church, and my favorite part of the job is meeting up with the girls one-on-one for discipleship. Over an iced coffee, I love to chat about how the Lord is working in her life. It’s amazing how the Holy Spirit can open up a young lady’s heart to understand and comprehend more about the Lord, and it’s a privilege to be used by Him in the process.

It can be difficult to know how to get the conversation started, however. Sometimes all those young ladies want to chat about it the guy they like or the newest drama in their friend groups. While there’s definitely a time and place to address those issues, a few guiding questions can lead your conversation into a more fruitful place. I compiled a list of some of my favorite questions, often asked of me when I met with my disciplers in high school & college.

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Here’s my favorite conversation starters to use with a disciple:


How can I pray for you?

What is something you are praying for?

When has God clearly answered a prayer of yours, and what did it look like?

Her story

Would you share your testimony with me?

How did God reveal to you your need for Him?

Which attribute of God’s character has been clearly demonstrated in your life?

How has God redeemed something in your life for good?

Getting to know God

What is something that you love about God?

Which attribute of God’s character do you desire to know in a deeper way?

How is God fulfilling promises from the Word in your life?

What are you grateful to God for?

The Word

What is God teaching you in the Word?

What is one of your favorite verses or passages in the Bible? Why?

What are you reading & studying in the Word?

What verse/passage have you been challenged by lately?

How can you practically obey or live in light of the Word today?


How have you seen God working this past week?

What are you expectant for God to do this next week?

What is God teaching you in this season of life?

How is God working in ______ (school, work, family, friendships, relationships, etc.)?

Which books are you reading/sermons are you listening to?


Have you talked with anyone about Christ lately? How did it go?

What are some gifts God has given you, and how can you use them for His glory?

What are some passions God has given you for His Kingdom?

How are you working to develop them?

What do you see as your current mission field?

How is God faithfully providing in that mission?

Planning for the Future

What do you desire God to accomplish in your life in this next season?

How do you want to grow in your walk with the Lord?

How is God calling you to walk in obedience in this next season of life?


Praying these will be a blessing to you and lead to many sweet conversations about the Lord and His great faithfulness.

If you have any other questions that you love to use while discipling girls, please leave them in a comment!

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Songs to beat the autumnal blues.

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I always say that autumn is my favorite season, & I really do think that it is. But for the past few years, autumn has held a whole lot of emotional weight to it. It’s been heavy & complicated. It’s been filled with change. It’s been riddled with self-doubt & insecurities. The shorter daylight as we rapidly approach winter isn’t helping anything, either. I find myself craving melancholy, morose tunes that match my inward reality, but those songs don’t help anything. I need to replace my negative headspace with some truth & a whole lot of Scripture.

Here’s a few joyful songs I’ve been listening to on repeat in this season to help combat those autumnal blues:

  • On and On by Housefires (on the album Housefires III, 2016). This song, guys. It’s been sweet solace for my soul when I doubt God’s love & forget His covenant with me. One of the most helpful ways to get out of a funk is to think less about me and more about God, and the song helps me to reflect on His faithfulness.
  • Love Don’t Stop by Eikon (on the album Look Up, 2017). What a reminder we need on the darker days, that God’s love doesn’t stop pursuing us. I love that the song talks about stopping and looking at what Christ accomplished on the cross, declaring that “hope is now alive.”
  • Amazing Grace (I’ve Got a Reason to Sing) by The Sing Team (on the album Sing On!, 2017). This new interpretation of Amazing Grace gives the song fresh life & allows the precious lyrics to sink deeper into my soul. The song turns from a lovely hymn into a lively jam you can’t help but sing along to. Also, any of the songs on this album are a good fix for the blues — truth delivered in a joyful, accessible, beautiful way. I also recommend “All Creatures of Our God and King and “What a Friend We Have in Jesus.” They’re delightfully fresh takes on the classic tunes and sure to put some joy in your ears.
  • Nailed to the Cross” by Rend Collective (2017). This song is all about preaching the gospel to yourself, one of the best spiritual weapons we can wield against the enemy & our flesh & and the lies of the world. Praise God for what He’s done as you replace lies with truth through this encouraging song. Nearly any Rend Collective song will bring worship to your soul and happy tapping to your feet.
  • 23” by Red Rocks Worship ( on the album Living Liturgies, 2016). Psalm 23, set to a beautiful melody. Reminding yourself of God’s good Shepherding during even the darkest of seasons is sure to bring a whole lot of comfort. This song reminds me that the joy of the Lord is abundant — “You have made me a place where joy is overflowing.”

I hope these songs will be a blessing to you!

What do you listen to that speaks truth to your soul when it is downcast?

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On Affliction.


David’s pen never wrote more sweetly than when dipped in the ink of affliction.

–Octavius Winslow

This quote is a balm to my soul. It’s so good to meditate upon the nature of God in the midst of suffering. My natural response to affliction is not to praise God. It’s usually to retreat from my life, to avoid the reality of what’s going on. But what if our suffering pushed us to worship? What if affliction became the kindling of our worship?

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Spurgeon: The Immutability of God


With God “is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.” Whatever his attributes were of old, they are now; his power, his wisdom, his justice, his truth, are alike unchanged. He has ever been the refuge of his people, their stronghold in the day of trouble, and he is their sure Helper still. He is unchanged in his love. He has loved his people with “an everlasting love”; he loves them now as much as ever he did, and when all earthly things shall have melted in the last conflagration, his love will still wear the dew of its youth. Precious is the assurance that he changes not! The wheel of providence revolves, but its axle is eternal love.

— Charles H. Spurgeon, Morning and Evening, November 2 Morning

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